In the past few months, well since finishing school, I feel like I have had a lot of big life decisions on my hands. The whole whether or not to go to university debate, what do I actually want to do with the rest of my life and what do I want to do now? These are all extremely difficult questions to answer, whether or not you are in a position to move forward or not. What’s to say that you have a complete path written out, and in 5 years time you decide that you want to do something totally different with your life? Thinking about all these questions can often become overwhelming, and to be honest can make me feel quite ill with worry. I feel like I am in a very different position to all my friends, as they all seem to have some idea of what they want to do and are going to be all over the country next year making those dreams come true. I however, am staying here in Bristol, contemplating what I want to do with the rest of my life. It is so so tough, even with the amount of support I am given from loved ones.
I have decided to buy myself some time, work to earn some money and pursue a big dream which you could probably guess is… blogging. I feel like after years of education, which for me was quite unsettling as I moved schools about 5 times, I need some time to be me and learn some real life lessons. Naturally I am quite a mature person, with a good concept of the world, but I do feel like I have a lot more learning to do. Something that I’m sure many older readers would agree with?!
“The real opportunity for success lies within the person, and not in the job” – Zig Ziglar
This has all been on my mind a lot in the last couple of weeks, going round and round, without me getting any closer to making any drastic decisions. Trying to be a positive person as per usual, I wanted to share this on the blog, and open up the topic to my readers. I want to know everything, about the things you wish you could change, what you wish you’d learnt sooner, and for you what is the most important thing in your life? I want to get everything into perspective – I need to stop worrying about pointless things and learn to move forward without ever looking back, something that I am very prone to doing.
Without putting myself down too much, I like to think that I have already learnt some valuable life lessons, I would love to share these with you so that everyone can get involved. In 18 years I probably haven’t learnt as much as many, but I definitely have my priorities straight and know that in the end everything will be okay. You have to work hard, and simply believe in yourself.
Be Kind, Caring and Graceful.
This to me is so important. Always be kind and caring, no matter how crap you’re feeling or how tired you are, always remember to say thank you and smile as you walk past people in the street.
In February, my boyfriend and I went to Copenhagen. We already had a little knowledge about the Scandinavian countries, particularly about how happy the community is and how there is so little crime, etc… I was very intrigued to see if this lived up to expectations, and wow it didn’t disappoint. I don’t think we saw one person who wasn’t helpful, kind or happy. There was a pleasant buzz everywhere you went, and you never felt like a nuisance if you had questions regarding the city or just needed a little help. Everyone we spoke to was lovely, everyone was so happy and everything about the city was safe. I didn’t feel threatened by anything or anyone, and the basic manners that everyone had blew my mind. When we got back to the UK I instantly missed Copenhagen, not just because we were back to reality, but because I realised how much the majority of my reality is horrible. Time and time again I walk past people who are miserable, I encounter rude unfriendly people on a regular basis and actually lose the will to be kind and caring as I feel like I never receive anything back. Since February I have got used to everything again, but I really don’t want to. I don’t want to be the person who looks miserable, who isn’t polite and who sits with my head in my phone 24/7. I guess really what I’m saying is not only is there a card on the table to move abroad at some point, but to challenge the majority. Be kind, be caring and be graceful. Even to those who don’t deserve it. Imagine if everyone decided to do this…we would live in a blissful country!
Friends and Family.
I guess really this is pretty obvious, but my number one priority will always be my loved ones. My family, my boyfriend and my closest friends. I don’t ever talk about these special people online, as my relationships are all private and I feel like it is something that doesn’t need to be shared online in order to mean something. But I guess I probably should occasionally mention more, not online but to them, just how special they are. *cue the soppy moment* I have a small number of people in my life who I couldn’t live without. If you’ve never heard me say it before, I live with my grandparents, and they are the best people I know. They are always here for me, would do anything if I needed help and constantly support me through everything. They are my rocks. I guess for most people this is probably the role of their parents, but for me my grandparents are everything rolled into one! They are my parents, my grandparents and to be honest my best friends. I share everything with them, and rely on them so much. Being a young adult/ teenager, often I am really busy and don’t spend as much time with them as I used to. This changed a few months ago, and I always try to spend as much time with them as possible. It doesn’t need to be loads of time, it just needs to be something – having dinner together, having a coffee together or sitting in bed and talking most nights. Yes this happens! I am still inclined to get into bed and have a chat with them before going to bed! This is the same with my boyfriend and friends. You have to make time for everybody, putting your phones away and doing things together. My boyfriend and I spend hours watching TV programmes together, and my friends and I always like to catch up having lunch dates!
Earring Your Own Money
This is quite a sensitive topic for me to share, as I think a lot of people have some sort of opinion about me and others who have nice things. This isn’t people online, but more people I know. I guess it’s easy to say that living with my grandparents I do have grandparent perks. I am an extremely lucky person, and live a very comfortable life. I am grateful for this everyday, and never ever take it for granted. I think a lot of people often forget this as they don’t see the bigger picture. As a family we are lucky, but that is because we all work hard, including me. I started my first job at 16, just as I started sixth form. I worked every Saturday at Costa Coffee for about a year, including all through exam season and the summer. I remember when I first started that I was one of the first out of my friend circle to get a job, not because I needed to but because I wanted to. I wanted to earn my own money so that I could buy things for myself. I worked at Costa for a year, and within two weeks of finishing I was working in a new job, which is actually where I still am. I started in a coffee shop in Clifton, first doing every Sunday before moving to every Saturday. As soon as my exams finished about two months ago I started full time and have been doing so since. At the age of 18, I have been working for 2 years, and put as much effort in as possible. I enjoy my job, but I also enjoy what I get out of it. I make my own money, I have made some good friends and I have something useful to do with my time. So I guess really all I went to get across is that I do work hard, I do make my own money and I do understand the value of it.
And on the topic of finances, if you’re wondering, no my handbag is not real. I bought it in Rhodes in a little supermarket, and think it is a fantastic fake. True me… I have examined it!
Education vs Employment
This for me is all about my decision not to go to university. At the end of year 12, the first year of sixth form, I decided that I didn’t want to complete my UCAS application nor go to university. I have two reasons for this. Firstly, something that I don’t want to dwell on too much, is that I have a slight health problem which needs fixing next September. I don’t want to go into this too much as it is a very very hard thing to talk about, and I am going to be sharing all the details in about a years time. But I am okay, and will get through it! The second reason, so regardless of any health problems, is that I don’t actually know what I would do at university. A few years ago I liked the idea of doing a fashion buying degree, which is still something that I would consider, but I was never overly passionate about it. I also liked the idea of a business degree, but again I am so indecisive!! I guess maybe one day I could go back, and do things in reverse, but right now it isn’t something that I want. I don’t think that I am ever going to be into the student life, and to be honest just want to work and earn some money. I want to go out and see things, spend time at home with family and do some travelling.
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I think this is really something that has changed more than I have learnt. In the past two years, my confidence has grown massively. I am so much better when socialising with people, especially those who I don’t know, and am able to engage in conversation without feeling shy or embarrassed. I have overcome negativity or judgmental people and don’t let them get to me. You have to build this great wall up so that people can’t hurt you. I am an open book with those important to me, but with unfamiliar faces you have to be wary. You have to know who to trust and be careful about what you say. This is just the harsh reality of life. Your confidence comes when you can understand this, yet still interact with those who you may not necessarily trust. People who say bad or nasty things don’t get to me, because in my eyes their opinion is irrelevant. I try my best in everything I do, and try to be as true to myself as possible. I have made mistakes, but have learnt from them, and I’m sure this will carry on happening through the rest of my life.
Please please please share your thoughts with me! I’d love to talk about all of this, and perhaps learn some important things from my readers!
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