What makes you smile in the morning? A cup of coffee? A warm shower? These small things become a routine for everyone, based on what they like, and if something happens to disrupt this it can have an effect on the entire day. One bad thing leads to another, and you land up just wanting to run home, hide under the duvet and eat a whole tub of Ben and Jerry’s. I feel like a lot of people nowadays don’t work through this problem, and let it get the better of them. I meet an endless amount of people everyday who are miserable, rude and simply unfriendly and I think to myself, why? Yes some people have genuine reasons for being like this, but a lot of people are like it all the time, just because they don’t see the need to be a positive person. It makes me really sad, and I cannot stand it when people don’t make the effort… I mean… AT LEAST YOU’RE ALIVE! It seems really silly to be writing a whole blog post about miserable people, but to me it is really important as my mood most certainly bounces off of other people.
“You always have a choice – be happy and be positive”
You don’t need to tell me how difficult it can be to put on a smile when you feel like utter crap, but I do really feel like there are some situations where you have to. Ultimately, if you force yourself to smile you are tricking your body, therefore will feel better more quickly. There is a time and a place to be sad, and personally I feel like it is quite a private thing. Leaving your problems at the front door when you leave home seems like a stupid thing to say, as I learnt when I was 9. My parents had just got divorced, and I was crying in school – the advice my teacher gave me was to “leave the problems at the school gate”. What a load of shit *excuse the swear word*. She made me so angry, as well as my whole family. Looking back now I do still agree with my reaction, as at the age of 9 you don’t have the social skills to be two different people at the same time. Now though, things are different, and I have learnt how to put on a brave face. If I am feeling low or sad, I force myself out of the house, I distract myself and I make myself feel better. Anyone can do it, it just takes time and practice.
Getting Up Early
For me, being productive and making the most of the day always makes me more positive. Getting up early and getting on with things, everything is just easier. Going through my teenage years, I spent a lot of time feeling depressed, purely because I was having lie ins too much. I wasn’t sleeping until two in the afternoon, but when I wasn’t at school I was definitely in bed until 11am. On the days that I had slept in, I spent the day feeling completely unmotivated and bored. I couldn’t encourage myself to do anything, and felt like the day flew by in the slowest way possible. It messed with my diet and just made me feel generally unhealthy. Now I have got into a routine of getting up at the same time (generally), as well as going to bed at roughly the same time. My sleep cycle is so much better, and I am a much happier person. I get up at 8am everyday, unless getting up earlier for work, and go to bed at around 11. I am not one for staying up late, hence why I would rather be snuggled up in bed rather than clubbing with my friends. It’s okay because they all understand – plus I then get the last laugh when they’re all hungover the next day 😉 The one day that I sleep in is a Sunday. I have a major catch up sleep on a Sunday, sleeping until about 12pm! I never feel low on Sundays, as I needed the sleep and spend the rest of the day resting and doing things I enjoy, like blogging. Having this one day means that I look forward to it.
I know that people say this a lot, but it’s because it is true. Exercise releases endorphins that make you happy – a scientific fact that has been proven. I am not going to say that I am a complete gym junkie, because i’m not, but I do enjoy going. I try to go about 4-5 times a week, and spend about 45 minutes a time working out. I do a bit of cardio, some strength and gentle toning exercising. I do this for many reasons: I want to be as healthy as possible, I want to be more toned in my figure and I need to exercise to feel positive. After every gym sessions, no matter how intense or relaxed it was, I feel a great sense of achievement. My body feels good and my mind feels clearer. I am also always happy when I get into bed and think to myself ‘I went to the gym today’!
Being more positive is so much easier if you surround yourself around people who love and support you. I am so grateful for all the people in my life, and feel blessed knowing that everyday I wake up they are here for me. Giving up time to be with them will always make you happier and more positive in life, as it offers a constant reminder of what you have. Nothing is more important than the ones you love. I have a great grandma who has dimentia, so she lives in a home about a 45 minute drive away from me. Even though she doesnt know what is happening most of the time, I make a point of going to visit ger regularly. A small part of me knows that she is aware of me when I am there, and it makes me feel so much better knowing I have seen her and spent time with her. She is a special person to me, as I am to her, and I know that it is my duty to go and see her as much as I can. Seeing the other people in the home with her, I always notice their lack of visitors, and it truly saddens me to know that people just disregard their own family and simply dont make the time for them.
I cannot even explain to you how much happier I am in myself when I am sticking to a healthy and balanced diet. I am a big lover of healthy food, as well as the naughty stuff, so love to experiment and nourish my body. Eating three meals a day with a good mixture of protein, carbs and vegetables makes me feel so much more alive and positive in myself. I treat myself a lot to chocolate, an occassional packet of crisps or a glass of wine, but my body is constantly craving the good stuff. It makes me feel amazing when I have eaten the right foods, and makes me want to eat even more. When I was in Rhodes I ate chicken souvalaki and chips pretty much everyday, and landed up feeling like I was going to turn into a chip when I got home! I have never craved vegetables so much in my life, and spent a good two weeks just living on simple proteins and veggies. My body returned to its normal self, and I felt so much happier.
Saying yes to things always makes me more positive. Sometimes I have those days where I just dont want to get up and have no motivation. You instantly have to force yourself up, get ready and get out to take in the day! Saying yes to more things will increase your experiences, introduce you to new people, and shape who you are as a person. Being positive is all about trying everything out, mingling with others and surrounding yourself with those who will bring the positive out in you. Obviously we all need days to just chill and relax, but getting out and doing things with people will always make you happier.
For me this is very important – I need to be busy all the time! If I am not busy I have time to think, and if I think I feel low and sad. I keep myself occupied 24/7, going to work, seeing friends and family and blogging. I am never not busy, and never not stressed about something. Keeping busy can include the smallest things, like catching up on some YouTube videos or looking through some photos, but I like to be doing something all the time. Yes, sometimes it can get a little much, but I just hate the feeling of being bored and having nothing to do. Let’s be honest, there is always something to do!
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