Another week, another blog post *a very happy sigh*
The days seem to have been running away with me lately, and I just don’t understand what I am doing with all my time. I try so hard to get everything done, but it just doesn’t happen and so by a Sunday night I always feel disappointed in myself and extremely tired. I guess that’s just the reality of working full time and blogging. More to come on this topic soon…in fact Wednesday to be precise.
Today I wanted to share with you two things in this post. Firstly, my love of the new Sarah Ashcroft collaboration with Misguided and secondly I want to talk about criticism. I know these two things seem completely unrelated, but trust me, I have a point. When I heard that Sarah was bringing out this collection I was so overjoyed for her – nothing makes me more happy than seeing bloggers who have started like me having huge success in their career. It always gives me a little giddy feeling and without a doubt makes me want to pursue my dreams. Sarah Ashcroft is without a doubt one of my favourite bloggers, her sassy style, endless amount of entertainment via snapchat and the genuinely lovely person she seems to be just makes me love everything about her. She has done undoubtedly well in her career and it still gives me goosebumps to think that she and so many others like her just started from the same place as me. When I hear about such collaborations, I always like to get in on the action, so this collaboration was no exception. As soon as the collection was launched online I was there, ordering myself a few of the beautiful bits… this bodysuit included. I wanted to go for a few things that I knew I would really wear – I don’t go out very much so buying nice evening dresses would have been a bit pointless. Anyway, needless to say I was so happy with my items when I received them and couldn’t wait to share how I styled some of it with you guys.
Now, the second topic today. I am a perfectionist (if you couldn’t already tell), so when I am criticised for doing things I don’t like it. I’m not talking about in daily life, I just wanted to talk to you guys about it in terms of blogging. I hate the amount of criticism that goes around in blogging… like seriously… can we not all just be nice to each other?! Now how the two topics come together, Sarah Ashcroft is one of the most famous bloggers in the UK so i’m sure that as much as she is loved, she has probably also received her fair share of negativity online. But look at her now, launching amazing collections like this and driving around in a beautiful Jeep. I am going to share with you all the things I have learnt from her, to help get over criticism you receive online and enjoy blogging whilst being able to ignore the more negative side of it.
Block & Ignore
Obviously, the first thing you do if you get horrible things online is block and ignore. Obviously, you are going to see what people have said, it is inevitable and comes with the trade. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to listen to it. You do what you do because it makes you happy, so don’t let someone else ruin that for you. There will always be people who don’t like you or what you’re doing, but truth be told it doesn’t matter. You have your own circle of people in your life, so a comment from a stranger who lives hundreds of miles away is not something you should take to heart. If they have nothing better to do with their time, then you should just simply feel sorry for them.
Be Encouraged by Others
Let’s get back to why we do this, we blog because we all love it and have something to share with the world. Go and read other peoples blogs, watch other peoples videos and be inspired. Let other people in your community encourage you to keep going and make you stronger. Following others will make you feel safer and secure, knowing that there are others probably going through the same as you, but simply saying no and getting on with it. It isn’t nice, but no one but you can stop you from doing what you love.
Talk to Loved Ones
Nothing will become of it by keeping everything to yourself – receiving negative comments online is a form of bullying and needs to be talked about. Have a conversation with your friends, family or partner and just talk. There isn’t anything they can say to make it any better, but getting it out of your system will be so good for you/ anyone. Let your friends and family do what they’re supposed to which is be there for you, and you will instantly feel supported and not alone. Blogging can be lonely, so make them a part of it. Even better, get talking to other bloggers. Connect with others online and share your experiences. That way you will really see that you are not alone.
Fuel your Anger into Something Good
When you are feeling upset and angry, use it to do something good. Don’t hide away, let your presence be known showing that no one can get to you. Share things online, keep doing what you’re doing and focus on what really makes you happy. If you want to share images of shoes and handbags continuously, go for it! Being online is so good for your blog as it shows how active you are and drives more followers towards it. Don’t stop doing what you love for someone else’s sake.
Have a Little Break
If you are really down because of criticism, which is totally understandable, then do give yourself some time. Getting the balance right with this is really important, as you don’t want to go of the radar for months and come back to find you have lost everything you had worked for. Give yourself a few days, and set yourself a date when you will be back. Really switch off in this time, logging out of all your social media, resisting being on your phone and not thinking about anything blog related. Enjoy the time being with your loved ones and doing other things. When the time comes that you said you want to come back, don’t put it off and just come back with a bang. Write a kick ass blog post and share loads of photos of you living your fantastic life. No one can put you down!
Get Back to Basics
When I have downfalls in my blogging motivation levels, I find the best way is to really get back to basics. Get a piece of paper, a pen and put on some music. Sit, looking at this paper and jot down all your blogging ideas. When I do this it literally all just floods out, and I have no idea how my brain had been keeping it all in. When you have a piece of paper full of ideas, your body will naturally feel so much more motivated and you will indefinitely want to get back to what you do best.
Do Something Else
Unless you are being paid to blog and really getting somewhere, ultimately blogging is a hobby. It is a very full on hobby I might like to add, but it is just something that everyone starts of doing for fun. Don’t get me wrong, I think blogging is amazing and I adore doing what I do, but sometimes I do wish that I had time to try out other things. My life is just work, blogging and trying to make time for everything else I need to do, so there really is no room to add another hobby into the equation. If you are going through a time when you really don’t want to be doing it and you have decided to take a little break, find something else to keep you occupied. This could be something as simple as reading or going to the gym, but it could also be something fun like joining a cycling group or learning an instrument. Awful examples I know! Give yourself to this new thing, and perhaps you will realise that was you think you want to do isn’t actually right for you.
Never Give Up
This is without a doubt the one thing that I have to say to myself numerous times a day, as well as what I want to say to you. Never let anyone make you feel like you should give up, and always try to make the best of a bad situation. It sound petty, but never let the bullies win because if you do you will never know how things could have gone. Stand up to them, rise above it and give yourself a chance to succeed. The truth is that anyone can do it. Sarah Ashcroft started her blog only a few years ago and look at where she is now.. I repeat myself… NEVER GIVE UP.
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