Surround Yourself with Loved Ones
When I am feeling low, my automatic and innate response is to be alone and be sad. Whether this be mope around the flat, watch some trashy tv or simply just sleep. Sometimes this is what we need, to just be upset and get it out of our systems – however, I strongly believe that this isn’t good all the time. I used to do this much more, but now I have realised that the best thing for me when I’m feeling low is to spend time with people. I go home and spend time with family, I go out with friends or I even go to the gym where there are people around. The moment I am with people I feel like a new person. I talk to them and tell them how i’m feeling, which always helps as it makes you feel lifted and supported. Although, it also distracts you as eventually you start talking about something different and I often very quickly forget about the fact that I am feeling upset. A few years ago, I always thought that I should be upset alone because I didn’t want to get in the way of my loved ones, but now I realise how silly that is. My family want nothing more than to be there for me when I’m low, and would be horrified if they thought that I was upset by myself. Always rely on those who love you.
Insecurity & Confidence
I think the main thing that has helped me feel happier is letting go of insecurities and feeling so much more confident. It is all about letting things go over your head, not caring about what others think and just simply learning to feel so much more care free every single day. I have never really cared about what others say or anything like that, but have felt very up and down in terms of confidence through my teen years. I am definitely at the end of the tunnel when it comes to this, which is why I find it so much easier to be care free. I know for a fact that if you don’t feel confident, being completely happy can be difficult. It is a feeling that constantly hangs over you – which I imagine is very similar to feeling insecure. I think the best way of getting over this is by not getting involved in drama and just surrounding yourself by people who love and truly care about you.
Don’t Rely on One Thing
Being happy is about having a balance in life. A balance between the ones you love, friendships, relationships, work, hobbies and exercise. This is so tough, for every single person, but some how the majority of us manage it. All the things in my life make me very happy, but I have realised that these aren’t just given to you. I have made a life for myself based on what I have been through and where I have been, and am so grateful for where I am now. I feel balanced, which will always lead to a happier you. I learnt about the importance of this balance when a few things changed for me at the beginning of the year. I was very focused on one thing for a long time; of course I didn’t realise this at the time but when I stepped out of the situation I could see it so much more clearly. I see now that it was so unhealthy, and made it very difficult when things did change. I got over it, and have now learnt from it. That’s just how life works I guess. Always focus on all the things going on in you life, and in my opinion the most important will always be your family and friends.
This is a pretty obvious thing within this blog post, not only because I am a blogger, but because I talk about it so much. My hobby is blogging – I started it for this reason. I needed something for me, a space where I could share the things that I love and my experiences, as well as something that is constant and I have complete control over. When I first started it, I had very little knowledge of where it would take me and what I would achieve from it, or even whether I would actually enjoy it. As with everything in life, it has taken a lot of time and a lot of mistakes, enabling me to create posts that I love and am very proud of. The blog makes me happy – that is the basis of it. Yes it has tested me a lot… being a complete control freak and perfectionist I am always trying to keep on top of it and produce the best work I can. However, this is a hobby and always has to co-exist with everything else going on in my life. This has been a challenge, and at times I have failed, but I always make it work. That is because it is something I love and I am so unbelievably passionate about. This is a big part of my happiness, so I truly believe that if you are feeling low or just generally sad in life, find something you can do that you love and constantly distracts you.
Exercise & Routine
For me, exercise has completely changed my life in the past few months. I have been going to the gym so much more and have just generally been so much more active. To begin with, it was a little bit of a challenge, due to my health problems. However, now I have gotten much more used to it and it is just routine, I have really started to notice the positive effects on my body. I am so much fitter day to day, feeling less tired and much healthier. Obviously an extra perk is that I can eat naughty food guilt free, but the balance is even better. I tend to go to the gym now in the evenings after the rush, as for me it just relaxes me and gets me ready for bed. Basically, I just completely tire myself out so that I can sleep easily through the night. I have always been such a bad sleeper, so this has been an absolute miracle worker. My life now is so much more balanced and so much healthier – which has definitely contributed to how happy I am.