Nowadays, I feel like we live in a world where everything is a challenge and every obstacle we have to overcome becomes so exaggerated for no reason at all. Stress is a feeling that everyone feels, no matter what age you are, your job or whatever things you choose to take on in your personal life. I am someone who goes through stages with stress, however I am only better at dealing with it now because I’ve had to learn how to deal with it successfully in order to get on with everything. I used to get stressed about every single thing going on, whether it be something more serious like exams to the smallest thing like a broken nail or my bedroom being a mess. The big things I always feel are justified and naturally we are never going to be able to shake the stress away with them, however the smaller things are never worth worrying about. Ironically, I actually think that when I used to get run down purely from stress it was only ever an accumulation of being stressed about the small things. I have noticed a huge change in myself over the past year – I just feel so much more relaxed; it is quite weird! Whether it be because quite a lot of things have changed in my life, or the techniques I was doing have actually started to take effect?
A big thing for me was that I knew I had to make a change because of the physical effects it used to have on my body.
I know a lot of people who have this as well, which is why I wanted to share my tips and hopefully help others who want to be able to deal with things effectively. I don’t get ill very much, but this means that when I do I often get very ill. I can probably say that about 90% of the time that I have been ill in my whole life, it has been a result of anxiety and stress. Nearly every single time I don’t even know that I am feeling this way until I become poorly and suddenly everything fits into place. It is horrible, and honestly does make life a little hard. I hate the idea of others going through the same thing, getting themselves so worked up that they become poorly and fail to function properly with their lives. There is no cure for stress, and we all have to accept that life is always going to be stressful, but we can become better at dealing with it and looking after ourselves.
There are two parts to this.
The most important thing for me when I am getting stressed is to write a list. I write a list of the things I need to do that day, followed by a list of what is troubling me. My peak time for stress is always in the morning, so the list technique works perfectly for me. With both lists, I write the most important things at the time and work my way down to the things that aren’t so important. The to-do list helps me greatly as I then have a bit of structure to my day and I do things only from this. I love being able to tick things off, then have evidence to myself at the end of the day off everything I have done. The second list is only helpful in the way that it gets it out of my head and onto a piece of paper. It makes me see things a bit more clearly, and generally just makes me feel calmer.
The second part is, to me there are very few things in my life that are a priority. The first is my friends and family and the second is health. When I get stressed, I always remind myself of what really matters in my life and as long as I have everyone I love around me and my health, that really is all that matters.
Over Your Head
Carrying on from reminding yourselves of the real priorities in your life, this then definitely enabled me to deal with people and situations that annoyed me. If someone says something to me that makes me angry or upset, or someone is rude in the car, etc, I am so much better now at simply letting it go over my head. Quite frankly, I don’t care and don’t need those kind of people in my life. If people are going to act like idiots that fine, but don’t let them make you an idiot too just so you feel on the same level. Rise above any situation, and just let it go in one ear and out the other.
Health and Wellbeing
Having a few health problems myself, this can often make me stressed, as obviously it is a worry. Instead of wallowing away in bed, eating junk food and watching Netflix feeling sorry for myself, I know that the best thing to do is always to do something about it. When you are stressed about something, the best thing to do is something that makes you feel better about it. For me, this is going to the gym. I know that every time I exercise I am making myself fitter and healthier. Not only is this going to help with my everyday health problems, but for me I know it is going to have a huge effect on my recovery after my surgery. The extra bonus is that exercise automatically makes you feel happier from the endorphins, so not only do I feel like I am helping the problem, but I am also distracting myself from it and improving my mood. This could be the same with weight issues, feeling stressed about the state of your home or even with work.
The most important thing in life is to balance your time between the things you have to do and the things you want to do. Work is obviously everyone’s number one, as we all need the dollar. However, work is never the only thing going on, no matter if you think it is or not. Life is also about looking after yourself and doing the things that you love. For me, stress often stems from doing too much of one thing and not enough of another. I feel tense when I haven’t seen a friend in a long time, or skipped the gym two days in a row. However, the problem is usually always from doing too much of another thing – I am not one to sit around on the sofa ignoring plans, I am ALWAYS busy!! I feel much less stressed now that I balance my time more and have stopped myself from feeling guilty when I do things just because I simply want to do them.
The biggest thing in life for me is to be organised. If I’m not organised I get very stressed, and when I’m very stressed I get poorly. Therefore, my schedule is pretty well organised and I am on top of most things quite a lot of the time… even if it doesn’t appear like I am 😉 Being organised will give you constant piece of mind, knowing that the near future is well planned and you know exactly what is going on. Get yourself a proper diary, and start planning things properly, making sure the balance is right and everything you want to achieve is realistic.