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Coming at you with one of those inspirational, be a better you posts. I love writing these, as they totally inspire me and always make me feel better for sharing something positive online. This year has already proven to be relatively negative, with all the bad things going on in the world. I swear, if I have to talk about Brexit again I am going to lose my mind. Yes, I know it is important to know what is happening in our world, but it can become very depressing if we don’t also focus on the positives. There are so many amazing things happening every single day, and there are so many amazing people doing small things each day to make our world a better place. If you have a job that doesn’t allow you to do amazing things each day, it is then our responsibility to ensure we have the traits of someone who can do good.
I consider myself to be a very lucky person. I am happy in life, surrounded by people I love, working towards dreams I am passionate about and most importantly, I am healthy. Therefore, I want to make sure that I am always helping people less fortunate than me. Even if it is a small contribution each day.
Being a more noble you doesn’t mean big gestures of kindness each and every day, but it does mean having a good attitude towards life, where you are always willing to put yourself out for someone else. I have worked in hospitality for around four years, and as you can imagine, I have had my fair share of rude and arrogant customers come through the door. Unlike 18 year old me, I have become much better at handling these situations, however it does still baffle me that people think they can act a certain way just because they are paying for me to make them a coffee. You are paying for your coffee, not the right to talk to me like a machine. As you can imagine, this has played a big impact in how I want to treat people in life. Hence, why this post is really important to me.
Always put yourself out to help someone.
The first step in being a more noble you is helping people without even having to think about it. If you see someone struggling with shopping bags in the car park, why not offer to help? If you see someone looking for 5p in the coffee queue, is it really going to hurt to give them that 5p? It is small acts of kindness that add up to a lot. If you do these things without even having to think first, you are an extremely kind and selfless person. It costs nothing to be a good person, it is just all about making an active effort to be a better well rounded person. P.s. always make sure you smile at strangers you walk by in the street!
Never let someone you are looking at struggle.
Carrying on from always putting yourself out for others, I like to use the phrase ‘never let someone you are looking at struggle’. If you can see someone struggling right in front of your eyes, is it really right to carry on with what you are doing and just let them be? A few weeks ago when I was food shopping I saw this poor mum drop a jar of baby food on the floor. She had so many bags with her and a little baby in the pushchair and there was all this glass and food on the floor. I was at the other end of the aisle, and I couldn’t believe how many people walked past, looking at her struggling to clear it up and just carried on going. Obviously, I went up and asked if she needed a hand, but she did insist that she was okay. Most of the time someone will say that they are alright, but what I couldn’t believe was how many people walked past her, having seen that she was struggling. Honestly, I thought it was quite disgusting. There are always exceptions, but if you can, always offer to help someone.
Make more conscious decisions.
So, even though I say that we should all do kind things without thinking, there are going to be some situations where we do need to think before helping. Using the lady in the supermarket again, it did cross my mind whether I should go and ask her if she needs help. A lot of people are very proud and want to do things themselves, which is fine, it just means that we need to consider the situation before offering to help. Always notice your surroundings, if someone else is already going to help and if the person in need is going to be okay or not. Each situation does require a little thought.
Don’t hide away from things you dislike in life.
One of the biggest challenges I find when you want to be kind is that sometimes you have to overcome something you are afraid of in order to do so. An example would be, if your other half wanted to do something that you don’t really find fun but you do it anyway because it would make them happy. If you are willing to do something, for the sake of someone else’s happiness, you are definitely on track to becoming a very selfless person. It really does irritate me when someone simply refuses to do something because it wouldn’t be their first choice.
Try one new thing every few months that helps someone else.
I guess in theory, we don’t always have the chance every day to do a good deed and help someone in need. However, we can make an effort every few months to try something new that is going to benefit someone else. Whether it be volunteering, giving blood or even donating to charity. Just something that is going to benefit the wellbeing of someone else and you can do without really having to take much time out of your life. Even if you try one new thing a year, you are on the way to becoming a more noble you.
Do you think you are the most selfless version of yourself that you can be?
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