Images by Hana Dallimore Photography
So today I wanted to discuss something that has been a big battle in my mind recently. I absolutely love this online world and social media; however, I do seem to have taken a natural step back in the last three months. I have spent the last five years building up my social media channels and being very present online, but I have always made an active effort to keep my personal life off this platform. When I am feeling stressed in life, a little dull, or even very busy, social media for me is the first thing that goes without so much as a thought. Which, I guess, really is the way it should be.
We all spend hours a day now online, browsing the Internet, sharing our lives on social media and snooping into everyone else’s. So much so that a lot of us have become completely consumed by it. I am all for sharing pretty pictures and good experiences in life, however I do think we all need to get better at knowing when to stop.
Obviously, this is all just very much a personal opinion, but this is my space to be honest so I am going to seize it. I do very much think that it is each to their own when it comes to social media – I mean we live in a free country after all. I love getting the chance to see a little more into people’s lives, and I love how Facebook especially connects us with those we have lost contact with our family who live far away. So how do we get this balance right of sharing our lives, whilst also keeping a lot of ourselves private.
You don’t need to share everything
I think the first thing to think if you are concerned about what you choose to share online, is to ask yourself do you really need to share what you are about to post before pressing publish? Social media is a great place to have a nosy into other people’s lives and we all seem to love consuming this content, however it can very much have a negative effect on our mental health. So many precious moments in our lives are much too important to share with the rest of the world and I do think that sometimes the importance of them can be ruined if published online. I love sharing experiences online, all my passions in life and the things I love to write about, but for me that is it. I don’t have much interest in sharing much about my personal life, my loved ones and my intimate experiences.
Keep your content varied
In terms of blogging and being an influencer, I think the best way of keeping your private life private is by being organised and keeping all your content varied. I tend to find that when I don’t have any images to share from photographers, events or blog posts, that is when I start taking images on my own just of day to day activities. These images are always much more personal, in my home, generally with the ones I love. Looking back, I sometimes regret posting these and am ashamed to say that sometimes it is just to keep my engagement levels up. I rarely delete these, but they tend not to fit in with my regular theme.
Attention seeking vs helping others
Okay, possible unpopular opinion here, but a big thing I find a lot being on social media is that sometimes it is hard to differentiate people between reaching out and trying to help others, and then just plain attention seeking. This may be a very bold statement, but it is just what I think to myself with a few people online when they share very personal information about themselves. I just personally think that if you want to help people based on your experiences that is fine, but there is a way to do that. Your content needs to be informative and helpful, rather than just talking about you. I just personally think some things are best sorted out behind closed doors.
Social media isn’t the be all and end all
Obviously, I love social media and the powerful effect it can have, but I do think it also comes with a lot of negatives. I have found that I have experiences a lot of emotions from who I follow online, in many different ways. The first being insecurity and incompetence compared to those who just seem to have a picture perfect life at all times. I follow a lot of people who seem to have a lovely home, nice handbags and what looks like a lot of money in their bank accounts. Whether this is the case or not, that is what it looks like, and I have found it can really get to me as my life isn’t like that. Secondly, people sharing about mental illness and depression. This was much more when I was younger, but I followed people who spent all their time sharing about their anxiety and depression. So much so, that I genuinely started to believe that I had it too. I most certainly didn’t. I just think everything needs to be in moderation, and we all need to remember that the images and words we choose to share really can impact someone else’s life, not always for the better.
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